Do you lack confidence in the dating world? Feeling uncertain and shy are not keys to success, nor are they attractive to your prospective partner.
Having confidence when you are dating means that you can impress the girl or guy on your date, while ensuring you experience success.
Here is some advice on how to date with confidence.
Do
Do understand that people are attracted to people who are confident
When you think about a confident person, you can describe them easily; they walk tall, they initiate and handshake or hug, speak with certainty, rather than speaking softly, a slumping posture or a weak handshake.
You can change how you present yourself by using these simple tips.
Do act as if you know them
If you knew the person you are going to meet was really going to like you, how would you conduct yourself? If you knew you both were going to get along great, how confident would you be during your first initial meeting and on your date?
Act as if you know the date or meeting is going to go well.
Do realize that failure leads to success
No one is successful on every occasion – not a professional athlete, not a performer and not someone navigating in the dating world.
Baseball players fail 2 out of 3 times when attempting to get a hit. Failure leads to success.
Do know it’s just a game
The best psychology for those who struggle with confidence on dates is to just imagine that every date or every outing is a game. Sometimes you win the game, sometimes you don’t.
If for some reason your “game” doesn’t go so well, you can start a new game tomorrow.
Do keep in mind that it’s a learning process
The more you “play the game”, the more accustomed you get to the potential obstacles. Understanding how to manage relationships, communicate, share, and express yourself to another person is a learned skill.
All your experiences, both perceived as good or bad, are learning experiences for you and will ultimately increase your confidence.
Don’t
Do not set yourself up for failure
Many people set themselves up for failure by imagining how bad the date is going to go before it even happens. When you see yourself failing in your mind, you’re setting yourself up to fail. Instead of imagining that the date is not going to go well, see yourself having fun.
Do not think every date is going to be a great match
Always go into the date with positive expectations, yet understand that some people are just not a good match for each other. Some people just don’t go well together, and it’s a good thing to figure that out early.
Remember the old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince.”
Do not try to be someone you’re not
In the dating world, what is most attractive is when you are being you. Don’t try to be someone your date will like. Real connection comes from when a person actually likes the person they are with. If they don’t like you for you, they are not the right one.
Do not worry about what hasn’t happened yet
Many people get themselves all bent out of shape because they are worrying about things that haven’t even happened.
“What if they don’t like the movie?” “What if they don’t like the restaurant I chose?” “What if the date doesn’t go well?” How about asking yourself, “What if it does go well?” What a concept!
Do not talk about previous bad relationships
Always be positive and take the high road. Talking negatively about your former partner doesn’t look good on you, and it doesn’t do anyone any good at all. You can always say, “It was a learning experience for me… I’m a better person because I went through those difficult times.” Take the high road!
Summary
Navigating through the world of dating can be a tricky proposition, yet having confidence in you is a must in order to experience success. Visualize your date going well, act as if it will, be yourself, and everything will take care of itself.
Source: Dan Lier via expertbeacon.com
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